diff --git a/fs/btrfs/delayed-ref.c b/fs/btrfs/delayed-ref.c
index 891ea2fa263c..47484b221445 100644
--- a/fs/btrfs/delayed-ref.c
+++ b/fs/btrfs/delayed-ref.c
@@ -1232,6 +1232,74 @@ btrfs_find_delayed_ref_head(struct btrfs_delayed_ref_root *delayed_refs, u64 byt
 	return find_ref_head(delayed_refs, bytenr, false);
 }
 
+static int find_comp(struct btrfs_delayed_ref_node *entry, u64 root, u64 parent)
+{
+	int type = parent ? BTRFS_SHARED_BLOCK_REF_KEY : BTRFS_TREE_BLOCK_REF_KEY;
+	struct btrfs_delayed_tree_ref *ref = btrfs_delayed_node_to_tree_ref(entry);
+
+	if (type < entry->type)
+		return -1;
+	if (type > entry->type)
+		return 1;
+
+	if (type == BTRFS_TREE_BLOCK_REF_KEY) {
+		if (root < ref->root)
+			return -1;
+		if (root > ref->root)
+			return 1;
+	} else {
+		if (parent < ref->parent)
+			return -1;
+		if (parent > ref->parent)
+			return 1;
+	}
+	return 0;
+}
+
+/*
+ * Check to see if a given root/parent reference is attached to the head.  This
+ * only checks for BTRFS_ADD_DELAYED_REF references that match, as that
+ * indicates the reference exists for the given root or parent.  This is for
+ * tree blocks only.
+ *
+ * @head: the head of the bytenr we're searching.
+ * @root: the root objectid of the reference if it is a normal reference.
+ * @parent: the parent if this is a shared backref.
+ */
+bool btrfs_find_delayed_tree_ref(struct btrfs_delayed_ref_head *head,
+				 u64 root, u64 parent)
+{
+	struct rb_node *node;
+	bool found = false;
+
+	lockdep_assert_held(&head->mutex);
+
+	spin_lock(&head->lock);
+	node = head->ref_tree.rb_root.rb_node;
+	while (node) {
+		struct btrfs_delayed_ref_node *entry;
+		int ret;
+
+		entry = rb_entry(node, struct btrfs_delayed_ref_node, ref_node);
+		ret = find_comp(entry, root, parent);
+		if (ret < 0) {
+			node = node->rb_left;
+		} else if (ret > 0) {
+			node = node->rb_right;
+		} else {
+			/*
+			 * We only want to count ADD actions, as drops mean the
+			 * ref doesn't exist.
+			 */
+			if (entry->action == BTRFS_ADD_DELAYED_REF)
+				found = true;
+			break;
+		}
+	}
+	spin_unlock(&head->lock);
+	return found;
+}
+
 void __cold btrfs_delayed_ref_exit(void)
 {
 	kmem_cache_destroy(btrfs_delayed_ref_head_cachep);
diff --git a/fs/btrfs/delayed-ref.h b/fs/btrfs/delayed-ref.h
index 62d679d40f4f..571dcd5a10f8 100644
--- a/fs/btrfs/delayed-ref.h
+++ b/fs/btrfs/delayed-ref.h
@@ -445,6 +445,8 @@ int btrfs_delayed_refs_rsv_refill(struct btrfs_fs_info *fs_info,
 void btrfs_migrate_to_delayed_refs_rsv(struct btrfs_fs_info *fs_info,
 				       u64 num_bytes);
 bool btrfs_check_space_for_delayed_refs(struct btrfs_fs_info *fs_info);
+bool btrfs_find_delayed_tree_ref(struct btrfs_delayed_ref_head *head,
+				 u64 root, u64 parent);
 
 /*
  * helper functions to cast a node into its container
diff --git a/fs/btrfs/extent-tree.c b/fs/btrfs/extent-tree.c
index 3db97c7feb47..502f611019a3 100644
--- a/fs/btrfs/extent-tree.c
+++ b/fs/btrfs/extent-tree.c
@@ -5399,23 +5399,62 @@ static int check_ref_exists(struct btrfs_trans_handle *trans,
 			    struct btrfs_root *root, u64 bytenr, u64 parent,
 			    int level)
 {
+	struct btrfs_delayed_ref_root *delayed_refs;
+	struct btrfs_delayed_ref_head *head;
 	struct btrfs_path *path;
 	struct btrfs_extent_inline_ref *iref;
 	int ret;
+	bool exists = false;
 
 	path = btrfs_alloc_path();
 	if (!path)
 		return -ENOMEM;
-
+again:
 	ret = lookup_extent_backref(trans, path, &iref, bytenr,
 				    root->fs_info->nodesize, parent,
 				    root->root_key.objectid, level, 0);
+	if (ret != -ENOENT) {
+		/*
+		 * If we get 0 then we found our reference, return 1, else
+		 * return the error if it's not -ENOENT;
+		 */
+		btrfs_free_path(path);
+		return (ret < 0 ) ? ret : 1;
+	}
+
+	/*
+	 * We could have a delayed ref with this reference, so look it up while
+	 * we're holding the path open to make sure we don't race with the
+	 * delayed ref running.
+	 */
+	delayed_refs = &trans->transaction->delayed_refs;
+	spin_lock(&delayed_refs->lock);
+	head = btrfs_find_delayed_ref_head(delayed_refs, bytenr);
+	if (!head)
+		goto out;
+	if (!mutex_trylock(&head->mutex)) {
+		/*
+		 * We're contended, means that the delayed ref is running, get a
+		 * reference and wait for the ref head to be complete and then
+		 * try again.
+		 */
+		refcount_inc(&head->refs);
+		spin_unlock(&delayed_refs->lock);
+
+		btrfs_release_path(path);
+
+		mutex_lock(&head->mutex);
+		mutex_unlock(&head->mutex);
+		btrfs_put_delayed_ref_head(head);
+		goto again;
+	}
+
+	exists = btrfs_find_delayed_tree_ref(head, root->root_key.objectid, parent);
+	mutex_unlock(&head->mutex);
+out:
+	spin_unlock(&delayed_refs->lock);
 	btrfs_free_path(path);
-	if (ret == -ENOENT)
-		return 0;
-	if (ret < 0)
-		return ret;
-	return 1;
+	return exists ? 1 : 0;
 }
 
 /*